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Parents work tirelessly to rid their children of their unwholesome habits. Adults struggle to throw off their deeply ingrained negative tendencies. Then there are those who wish to walk the spiritual path and hence follow the injunctions of the scriptures to eschew evil and cultivate virtue. Still others are compelled to pay attention to the serious warnings of their doctors in the face of a fast deteriorating health condition to get rid of deadly habits. Reasons may vary, but the goal is the same: to get rid of shortcomings, vices, defects or bad habits. But what is the origin of our vices? We start with innocent purity of our childhood and grow up learning and imbibing customs, culture, manners, religion, ideas and values from our environment. Hunger, thirst, sleep, desire to procreate, desire to love and be loved are fundamental to survival of our species. But in man, these drives acquire special power. His desires drive him on to seek pleasurable sensations and avoid painful experiences. In his incessant effort to relive and intensify pleasures, he systematically diminishes their value without knowing it. Man's habits have their roots in his thoughts, backed by desires and will. Thought is the real plane of action. It may start as an impulse of a young person to have his first smoke or a drink. It could be a desire for a piece of sweet by a diabetic person, or a wish of any individual to avoid some irksome duty. Thoughts have power of reproduction. They return, deriving their strength from our attachment or revulsion, bringing to our mind vivid pictures of the pleasures to be had. If we entertain them, we succumb. When a person has his first smoke or a drink, or a piece of forbidden sweet, or neglects to do his duty, he does not realize that having given way once, it is much easier and perhaps more pleasurable to give in again the next time. These impressions return to us periodically, growing stronger with every success. Until at last, we become slaves to our habits and then we are helpless. Each thought, as it evolves, combines with a few or many "lives," called elementals, and forms an entity. This thought-entity, then, has a life of its own and there is a close affinity between these entities and their creator. They return to him again, as it were, to remain alive by the force of his mental energies. How does it all begin? It may have its roots in the tendencies brought over from our past lives. It could be the result of bad company or bad books, movies and advertisements. Our imagination is set aflame by these contacts. That is the reason why satsang—good company—is important. Unless we have good grounding of right values, external influences have power to shake us. The Buddha says:
Having succumbed, a sense of regret may follow. Why, oh why did I let it happen? We feel shame, regret, and remorse for the time being and resolve not to fall prey again. All the while, the little thought-entity laughs impishly. Little do we know that having fallen once, checking ourselves next time is going to be more difficult. When the same thought returns, it also brings along the memory of the pleasurable experience. We find ourselves lingering over the memory—mentally reliving the experience. And a voice from within tempts: "Only one last time and then never again—let me try it, just one more time." The fattened entity laughs louder, becoming sure of its continued existence with its master gradually turning himself into its slave. This is how we gradually build our habits. Starting small, they end up becoming our rulers—becoming our fond habits, difficult to overcome. Difficult, but not impossible though. We make our own destiny, using the power to think and choose. We have the power to make and unmake things. The trinity of Brahma, Vishnu and Shiva, or the powers of creation, preservation and regeneration are within us. With firm resolve and determined effort we may overthrow the fiend. To acknowledge the existence of a vice in oneself is the first step and a firm resolve to uproot the vice and bleed it to death is the second. To the resolve, one needs to add "creative imagination." It is wise to resolve affirmatively. For instance, it is better to say, "I will remain calm," instead of, "I will not get angry." The key lies in being able to divert the mind to something that elevates one's consciousness. It could be reading of some scripture or a good book, listening to good music, calling up a friend, lending a helping hand to the needy, etc. Remaining on guard, we need to dismiss the temptation with a quick switchover to another area of interest without wasting even a second on analysis or reflection. We need to put behind that weak moment as quickly as possible. This sort interval is most difficult to cross. Hence, the switchover has to be swift and smooth. Look not behind. It is a known fact that two thoughts cannot occupy our mind at the same time. If one has managed to switch over to a new thought, the old one has to vacate the place. The dismissed entities may seek entry again, but we have a choice and power to refuse them an entry. Each refusal weakens them. With each failure, they grow feeble and finally trouble us no more. But until then vigilance and practice of virtues is protective armour. Sometimes we may fail, despite our best efforts. If it is anger we are combating, we must picture clearly in our mind that when the anger begins to rise, we would leave the scene, go off for a long walk, go for a swim, count ten or draw 10 long and deep breaths. Brooding over one's faults is like adding fuel to the fire. We must regret just enough to learn so as not to repeat. Self-examination is a technique recommended for keeping a watchful eye on one's course of journey. Each night, before going to bed, review the happenings of the day in the light of virtues. Impartially and objectively, we must take stock and make note of what went right and what went wrong and why—just enough analysis to identify the cause and decide on the course of action with fresh determination. Patience is needed. Be patient, even with yourself, writes Mr. Judge. A sapling may be uprooted without much effort, but uprooting a full-grown tree calls for persistent effort and patience. We fail only when we stop trying. Every trial can take us a step closer to success. We may derive strength from the fact that as others have done, so can we.
A sincere spiritual aspirant has to overcome—apart from his own individual shortcomings and negative traits—the tendencies that he shares with his family, nation and humanity in general. Thus:
The real means of progress is careful performance of every duty to our own family and to our own nation. It is in the performance of our daily and hourly duties that we learn our lessons, overcome obstacles, and progress. If we mortify ourselves in careful performance of small duties of life then we are more likely to succeed in bigger challenges. Thus we rise from one level to another, higher and higher.
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